FOUNDER & CEO, BBarton, Inc.

For most of my life, I believed love had to be earned.

I over-gave in my career, pushing myself to exhaustion, working long hours, traveling constantly, and trying to be everything for everyone. I abandoned myself in relationships too, people pleasing, overextending, and shrinking my needs to stay connected. On the outside, I looked successful.

On the inside, I was anxious, disconnected from myself, and constantly afraid of losing love if I stopped trying so hard.

I didn’t know it then, but I was living from survival.

That pattern followed me everywhere.
In my work.
In my relationships.
In how I related to myself.

I was chasing approval, stability, and connection while abandoning my own needs in the process. No matter how much I achieved or how deeply I loved, it never felt like enough.

Eventually, my body and my life forced me to stop.

I gave up the career, the constant pushing, and the belief that I had to earn love through sacrifice. I ended my 13 year marriage and I chose something radically different. I chose myself. I moved to Costa Rica, slowed down, and began rebuilding my life from internal safety instead of external validation.

Today, I am more confident, secure, and grounded within myself than I have ever been. Not because I fixed myself, but because I stopped fighting who I was and learned how to work with my nervous system instead of against it.

That is the work I now guide other LGBTQ+ women through.

I don’t believe women who love women are doomed.

I believe we haven't been given proper examples or tools to have healthy, secure relationships so we operate from learned responses to past experiences.

And when we understand our attachment patterns and nervous system, we stop blaming ourselves and start choosing differently.

This work is not about becoming someone new. It’s about becoming relationship ready again without abandoning who you are.